Group Musings….

On Toxic Family

“I don’t keep anyone in my life anymore if they make me feel bad in any way. It’s been liberating to slam the door on certain family members that I’ve put up with simply because they’re family. That’s just not a good enough reason for me to have contact with someone I don’t like.”

On Work

“I just left my job and started my own business because being around people for 8 hours a day was so draining with the constant drama and people coming to me to complain. I get so much more done now in such a short period of time. I think being introverted is recognized as a problem in most businesses because a lot of business owners and managers and extroverted and don’t take the time to understand us. They see us as something that needs to be fixed rather than nurtured. At least, that has been my experience my entire life.Everything in school was centered around working in groups, catering to extroverts’ need for stimulation. What about the introverts’ need for quiet and focus?”

On Improving Communication

“I’m quickly finding out that if I’m so nice/friendly that it feels horribly fake, it’s what most people consider normal nice/friendly. So yea, if you feel like overdoing it, you’re probably nailing it.”

Some Questions INTJs Hate:

How Are You? Why Don’t You Smile? Are you OK? When are you going to have kids/So you really aren’t having children? Why aren’t you married? You went somewhere by yourself? Why haven’t I heard from you? Why are you single? Why are you so quiet? What do you do for fun? What are your hobbies? What do you do for a living? What did you do this weekend? What are you up to right now? Can I call you? What’s your ethnicity? What do you do in your spare time? Are you sure? Where are you from? Are you religious? Are you mad at me? Why don’t you like calls?

On Efficiency and Planning:

“When someone tells me to change how I’m doing something, I won’t change unless they can explain/prove to me why their way makes more sense. But if they can, I’ll gladly change my method.”

On Participation Trophies:

“The Olympics have gold, silver, bronze for a reason. Platinum and the rest are not welcome!”

Testimonials for the Facebook Group:

“Finally found a group where I feel completely at home. Thanks for letting me join.”

“I love this group more than any INTJ group I’ve been a part of.”

“This is the first “serious” (good sense) group I am in, mature, intelligent, no offenses, no bullying, no easy judgment.”

“I love not having to pretend to be Suzy Sunshine.”

“I learn more here. Not always pleasant but I stay so that’s saying something. I appreciate variety and looking at all angles. I want to see things through other lenses. I’m surprised. I’m affirmed. I’m challenged.”

“I like it that people in this group read things and share interesting articles about things that I might not have read otherwise.”

“I like that we all understand our eccentricities and make each other feel ok about it. Outsiders don’t get us, but we get each other and that feels good.”

“I can speak my mind here, in its truest form. It also makes me feel more normal because other people have similar views (even when we disagree).”

“This is the only place I can write something without reading it 30 times and wondering if it makes sense. I belong here. That’s a nice feeling.”

“My energy is depleted very quickly on social media. Read a single comment section on a news station post and you will see exactly what I mean.This group seems to be more focused, respectful, logical, but funny as hell as needed.I love the way we agree and the way we disagree. No overblown dramatics.”

“I’ve lost count of the many times that what I think is the most simple thing is completely misunderstood. That doesn’t happen here. Whether it’s something simple or complex, I don’t need to figure out a different way to say the exact same thing in a way others will comprehend. Or for some, never comprehend. Also, you can write a novel in a post and you know people will actually take the time to read it.”

“Where do I begin? 1. We can argue about shit and nobody seems to get crazy about it. We just move on to the next topic where we agree. No butts hurt in the process. 2. These ladies are genuinely hilarious. 3. We are the only people who understand us. It’s a damn relief. Since we are rare, it’s nice to be able to come here and feel understood. 4. Admins are great. 5. Shit posting is limited. We actually have thoughtful conversations. I could keep going, but you guys already know I think this is the best MBTI group in existence on Facebook.”

“The fact that I can communicate with everyone here in my natural style and I don’t have to dumb down or “nice down” anything for anyone because, well, you guys get it and communicate the same way.”

“Open minded, intelligent, interesting, hilarious, familiar, nonjudgmental, badass women.”

“I learn more here. Not always pleasant but I stay so that’s saying something. I appreciate variety and looking at all angles. I want to see things through other lenses. I’m surprised. I’m affirmed. I’m challenged.”

“Nearly all of the people here are not petty, and very intelligent.Typically, a valid logical argument will be accepted and not ignored or bypassed.People are rarely emotionally swayed.Most have a great sense of humor. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed being allowed to stay and interact.”

“The smartest humor currently available anywhere.”

“That there are others like me out there! I always felt alone and so different from other people. So glad I found my tribe “

“Can’t believe how comfortable it feels to be in this space. Like it’s okay to say what I’m really thinking. And then someone else says exactly what I’m thinking before I even start to type. It’s be creepy if it weren’t so much fun.”

“One of the few Facebook groups that are blunt, funny and has intelligent members I can relate with. I’ll be in this group for a long time.”